I contemplated calling this post 10 ‘tips’ from a 20-something, instead of 10 ‘thoughts,’ but I felt like these are merely just observations about life. Beyond that, as the title suggests, I am only in my twenties, what advice do I really have to give. A lot of these statements may seem very obvious, but sometimes the simplest things can make the world of difference.
1. Every person is a person. Well this couldn’t be a more obvious statement. However, I think that this is something that we often forget. I used to be really shy. I mean REALLY shy. But something that helped me get over that was my outlook on people. No one person is more important or less important than anyone else. That includes the President of the United States of America (maybe a bad example.. or a good example.. but you see my point). People may have a very important job, but they themselves as a person are not more important than anyone else. Don’t be afraid to talk to someone or ask them questions because you feel you are inferior to them. Same goes for you! You are not that important either. So don’t act like you are or you’re going to miss out on a lot.
2. Every person has a story. Continuing on with number one, keep in mind that everyone has gone through something different and has a different outlook on life. You can learn from them and open your eyes to a part of the world you have yet to think about.
3. Always take a step back and look at the big picture. Do this when making decisions, when you are really sad or really frustrated, or just feeling confused. When making big decisions, think about what matters most to you and why you are here on this planet. This is especially true when it comes to doing the right thing. It very well may get you “ahead” in life to lie or cheat, but if your integrity is gone then what are you living for? You will be left with the materialistic things that you thought would bring fulfillment and happiness to your life.
4. The time is passing anyways, might as well make the most of it.
5. Life is fleeting. Don’t let things pass you by without taking advantage of what’s in front of you. You never know how long it will last or what is going to happen next.
6. Find peace in change. Good things in life are fleeting, but anger and sadness are also fleeting. Take comfort in the fact that you are changing. You are not always going to feel the same way about something. That thought makes me sad. But I also think that the feelings that are rooted down deep within you will still be there. And your future self won’t be bothered by the feelings that do change because by then you will feel differently.
7. Ask ‘why’ more often. Ask yourself why you like the things you like and why you do the things you do. Also ask other people the same question. Don’t blindly believe everything you hear or accept something without getting a better look at the bigger picture.
8. Play the games, but know when to stand up for what is right. Although I personally believe that no one person is more important than another, some people feel differently (about themselves). Sometimes you have to just play the games of the workplace or society to keep things running smoothly. It can be hard to know when you should stand up and say something. I would like to think that contemplating the long term outcomes will help you know what to do. I’m still figuring this one out.
9. Be honest.
10. Be kind.